Comments on: A Tale of Buying the Perfect Curtains—and the pain and pleasure of shopping http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping Wed, 04 Aug 2010 04:13:45 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Carol Guidi http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11474 Carol Guidi Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:41:26 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11474 Interesting article. I say we need to stop beating ourselves up over money decisions. Why didn't you look around more (than a month?) for cheaper curtains? Because you have a career and EARNING to attend to. But if you happen to run across a better buy, get some if you still need them and file it away for future reference to check that store for other home purchases. Another way they suck you in is to encourage the use of a cart - don't you want to just fill it up with goodies to bring home? Try getting only the basket at the grocery store. Put a gallon of milk in it and it's so darned heavy you will get to the checkout soon. At the big box store, walk directly to the item you intend to purchase - do not pass go! I got in a LOT of shopping trouble when I had kids in strollers. Where else can you stroll them happily when it's yucky or cold outside but in a pretty store, with peppy music and bright, colorful, new things that promise to improve my life? UGH! I'm glad those days are over. Now trying to praise myself for how much I DON'T buy. I like the positive encouragement I'm getting! Interesting article. I say we need to stop beating ourselves up over money decisions. Why didn’t you look around more (than a month?) for cheaper curtains? Because you have a career and EARNING to attend to. But if you happen to run across a better buy, get some if you still need them and file it away for future reference to check that store for other home purchases.
Another way they suck you in is to encourage the use of a cart – don’t you want to just fill it up with goodies to bring home? Try getting only the basket at the grocery store. Put a gallon of milk in it and it’s so darned heavy you will get to the checkout soon. At the big box store, walk directly to the item you intend to purchase – do not pass go!
I got in a LOT of shopping trouble when I had kids in strollers. Where else can you stroll them happily when it’s yucky or cold outside but in a pretty store, with peppy music and bright, colorful, new things that promise to improve my life? UGH! I’m glad those days are over.
Now trying to praise myself for how much I DON’T buy. I like the positive encouragement I’m getting!

]]> By: Sandra Anderson http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11219 Sandra Anderson Mon, 31 Aug 2009 18:33:48 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11219 Happy to be in the elusive 20%.... Happy to be in the elusive 20%….

]]> By: Marcia Brixey http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11139 Marcia Brixey Fri, 28 Aug 2009 00:35:53 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11139 Mikelann, I LOVE your honesty! Nobody is immune from the pleasure of spending and you're experience has proven it! I was just in Target and found rugs I wanted to buy. I STOPPED and asked myself -- did I really need these? NO! So, I escaped the store without buying them, but it would have been easy to slip them into my basket. Thanks again for sharing! Marcia Mikelann,

I LOVE your honesty! Nobody is immune from the pleasure of spending and you’re experience has proven it! I was just in Target and found rugs I wanted to buy. I STOPPED and asked myself — did I really need these? NO! So, I escaped the store without buying them, but it would have been easy to slip them into my basket.

Thanks again for sharing!

Marcia

]]> By: Ann http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11136 Ann Thu, 27 Aug 2009 23:42:24 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11136 I'm delighted to find that I'm not alone with buyer's remorse. So often when I buy something "nonessential" (your electric handbroom?), I beat myself up all the way home -- and for several days after -- about spending money that I couldn't afford on something I thought I needed at the moment, but didn't need at all by the time I got home. This happens with both cash and credit purchases. Have gone through periods in my life without credit cards, and I have to say life was easier in so many ways then. The problem is that the world now requires a credit card for nearly everything (even a glass of wine on the airpline on Tuesday could only be puchased with a credit card). Learning to use one responsibly is the challenge. Thanks for continually showing us how! I’m delighted to find that I’m not alone with buyer’s remorse. So often when I buy something “nonessential” (your electric handbroom?), I beat myself up all the way home — and for several days after — about spending money that I couldn’t afford on something I thought I needed at the moment, but didn’t need at all by the time I got home. This happens with both cash and credit purchases. Have gone through periods in my life without credit cards, and I have to say life was easier in so many ways then. The problem is that the world now requires a credit card for nearly everything (even a glass of wine on the airpline on Tuesday could only be puchased with a credit card). Learning to use one responsibly is the challenge. Thanks for continually showing us how!

]]> By: Becky http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11134 Becky Thu, 27 Aug 2009 19:27:47 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11134 Oh that is all so true for me, too! I even find that using my debit card, I tend to spend more than I would with having to hand over my cash. I'm getting back to the "envelope system"... putting cash in envelopes marked for specific purposes... like food, clothing, etc. It really does help me to stay on track and not over-spend. .-= Becky´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.lacey-massage-therapy.com/Massage-Therapist-Directory.html" rel="nofollow">Aug 24, Massage Therapist Directory, find a massage therapist in your area.</a> =-. Oh that is all so true for me, too! I even find that using my debit card, I tend to spend more than I would with having to hand over my cash. I’m getting back to the “envelope system”… putting cash in envelopes marked for specific purposes… like food, clothing, etc. It really does help me to stay on track and not over-spend.
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]]> By: mary paananen http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11133 mary paananen Thu, 27 Aug 2009 19:09:57 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11133 Another reason to pay with money is to help keep local business around. They take in more money if they do not have to pay the percentage to the credit card company. I just do not like carrying cash. I appreciate this on going learning about the mix and match of brain and spending opportunities. Another reason to pay with money is to help keep local business around. They take in more money if they do not have to pay the percentage to the credit card company. I just do not like carrying cash. I appreciate this on going learning about the mix and match of brain and spending opportunities.

]]> By: Amy http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11132 Amy Thu, 27 Aug 2009 18:44:52 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11132 I got myself in the trap of putting everything on credit cards so I could build up airline miles. Oh boy, big mistake. Now I'm paying off credit card debt because I was unable to pay off the balances every month. I'm now on a cash economy. I got myself in the trap of putting everything on credit cards so I could build up airline miles. Oh boy, big mistake. Now I’m paying off credit card debt because I was unable to pay off the balances every month. I’m now on a cash economy.

]]> By: Patti http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11129 Patti Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:56:44 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11129 This entire excursion is like looking in a mirror for me! I can honestly say "been there and done that" exactly! Thanks Mikelann for sharing your experience and lessons learned. This entire excursion is like looking in a mirror for me! I can honestly say “been there and done that” exactly! Thanks Mikelann for sharing your experience and lessons learned.

]]> By: Michele Corey http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11128 Michele Corey Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:42:58 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11128 Congratulations on your new home! I was totally hooked as I read your blog post - and yes many of us, myself included, have had our "electric handbroom" and then loaded in other stuff to balance the pleasure / pain. My electric handbroom is gardening things and plants. I hope for your sake your yard is gorgeous as is and you love it. Although over the years I've gone through times of being in credit card debt simply because I didn't pay attention and spent more than I needed to and could pay off. In retrospect I've been really fortunate to have experienced the pain of significant interest which allows me to enjoy the gift and pleasure of being in that 20% that pays off my card and enjoys the reward points. And I know that if I don't stay conscious it could easily shift. Thanks for the reminder that all of us experience similar aha moments - and it's about being conscious, making wise choices, and not regretting the end result. .-= Michele Corey´s last undefined ..<a href="0" rel="nofollow">If you register your site for free at </a> =-. Congratulations on your new home!

I was totally hooked as I read your blog post – and yes many of us, myself included, have had our “electric handbroom” and then loaded in other stuff to balance the pleasure / pain.

My electric handbroom is gardening things and plants. I hope for your sake your yard is gorgeous as is and you love it.

Although over the years I’ve gone through times of being in credit card debt simply because I didn’t pay attention and spent more than I needed to and could pay off. In retrospect I’ve been really fortunate to have experienced the pain of significant interest which allows me to enjoy the gift and pleasure of being in that 20% that pays off my card and enjoys the reward points. And I know that if I don’t stay conscious it could easily shift.

Thanks for the reminder that all of us experience similar aha moments – and it’s about being conscious, making wise choices, and not regretting the end result.
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]]> By: Jeanette http://www.womenearning.com/blog/the-pain-and-pleasure-of-shopping/comment-page-1#comment-11127 Jeanette Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:10:02 +0000 http://www.womenearning.com/blog/?p=376#comment-11127 I too dislike credit cards and find that when I use the debit card, or cash, I spend differently. It is not surprising to me that stores try to get you to buy more. It just means that I have to careful about using my credit card and the justifications that use to buy whatever has my attention at the moment. Thanks for being so honest! I love you stuff. I too dislike credit cards and find that when I use the debit card, or cash, I spend differently. It is not surprising to me that stores try to get you to buy more. It just means that I have to careful about using my credit card and the justifications that use to buy whatever has my attention at the moment.

Thanks for being so honest! I love you stuff.

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